1. Hold your head up high, it will help you regain your balance

2. Remind yourself that difficult times are part of any life, and will make you stronger in the end

3. Apologize sincerely, and without excuses

4. Cry if you feel like it, and then cry some more

5. Call friends/family and ask for support

6. Face the problem

7. Keep your normal routine, and look after your health and appearance, even if you feel disconnected or numb

8. Write down your feelings in a journal

9. Ask people you trust for advice

10. Try to avoid making the situation worse

11. Begin dreaming about the future again, as quickly as possible, even if it’s only between bouts of doubt and fear at first

12. Practice yoga

13. Take long walks to think

14. Pray…alot

15. Seek professional help if you feel yourself sinking, or are unable to carry on normal daily activities

16. Educate yourself on what’s happened, and how to cope with it

17. Surround yourself with positive people

18. Adopt a pet for companionship

19. Take long baths

20. Hold on

21. Be careful not to soothe yourself with drugs, alcohol, food, shopping, work or anything else that helps avoid the problem

22. Avoid dating, or beginning a new relationship, until you have your equilibrium back

23. Take a weekend away, even if it’s just to a friend’s house

24. Have a specified period of “worry time” each day, and do your best to not think about things the rest of the time

25. In other words, don’t obsess

26. Even when you’re hurting, be kind to others

27. Let others help you

28. But don’t let others become a crutch

29. Pick up a new hobby

30. Read a book that will inspire you, like “Resilience: Hard-Won Wisdom for Living a Better Life” by Eric Greitens

31. Remember that you’re not the only one that’s gone through this, and seek support groups

32. Commit to not only surviving, but thriving

33. Help others, as a way of understanding that at any given time we are all facing something difficult

34. Do your best to learn something from the experience

35. Try and find the silver lining to what’s happened to you

36. Cry some more

37. Remember that ups and downs are all a part of life for everyone, and we must learn to take the rough with the smooth

38. Get plenty of sleep

39. Listen to what your heart is telling you that you need most

40. Volunteer to rock infants in your local hospital’s neonatal unit

41. Volunteer to read during the local bookstore’s children’s story hour

42. Don’t forget to see the beauty that’s all around you, despite what’s happened, and notice how life does go on

43. Take on a new challenge, once you’re ready

44. Remind yourself how strong you are, and how many things you’ve overcome in the past

45. Take care of your health

46. Get angry

47. Tell someone you trust that you’re angry

48. Cry some more

49. Slow down, be kind to yourself, and learn to self-soothe

50. Learn how to cook your favourite meal, like Nigel Slater’s Coq au Riesling

51. If you’ve lost your job, consider beginning a new career doing what you’ve always dreamt of doing

52. Ask the older members of your family about the most difficult thing they’ve ever gone through, and how they coped

53. Write “You are strong, you are smart, you are beautiful and you will get through this.” in red lipstick on your bathroom mirror

54. Be prepared to see yourself, and your life, in a new way

55. Learn that people won’t always be around to help, so this is why we need to learn to take care of ourselves

56. Remember that endings come right before new beginnings

57. Don’t beat yourself up over what’s happened, or for how long it’s taking you to get over it

58. Remember that every day is a do over, and a chance to do things differently

59. Cry some more

60. Pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and start all over again

61. Be proud of yourself for not giving up

62. Truly listen to every piece of advice you’re given, because you never know what might work for you

62. Wake up every day, and just do the best you can to smile

63. If you’ve become unemployed, assess your situation and improve your marketability by learning a new business skill

64. Consider moving if you can’t start over where you are

65. Face the truth

66. Stop wondering why this happened to you. There may have been no reason.

67. Prepare yourself to make tough decisions

68. Be honest with yourself about what you might need to change in yourself to prevent this from happening again

69. Remember that you will make a new life

70. Listen to inspirational music, like “Stand” by Bebe Winans

71. Try to avoid feeling sorry for yourself

72. Let yourself grieve

73. Don’t say that it didn’t matter. It did.

74. Don’t withdraw

75. Have a weekly date with friends

76. If you can no longer have what you wanted, think of something new that you want

77. Let others see you struggle and overcome. It may help them to do the same some day.

78. Give up outdated ideas of what your life should look like

79. Accept what is

80. Make a list of all the things you like about yourself

81. Forgive anyone, or any event, that contributed to the problem

82. Do your best to reframe your perspective

83. Realize that you may look back and see this as a positive in some way

84. Read the Tao Te Ching

85. Don’t forget to ask others how they’re doing, or you risk becoming too self-absorbed

86. Let yourself laugh and enjoy life again, without feeling guilty

87. Don’t forget to send thank you notes to those that have been there for you

88. Mark small milestones with a private celebration

89. Take responsibility, accept consequences, learn from your mistakes, but eventually you must leave the guilt behind

90. Accept that others may not forgive you, and that’s their choice

91. There is no room for regret in building a new life

92. Make a list of the good things going on in your life, and focus only on them for an entire day

93. Keep taking care of yourself, even once you begin to feel better

94. Don’t feel guilty for moving on, and take all the happy memories with you

95. Make a dream book with photos of what your new life will look like

96. Notice when you’ve stopped crying

97. Accept the moments that you regress

98. Throw a dinner party to thank everyone that stood by you

99. Embrace the new life you’re building, and the new people in it

100. When it’s time, have a “letting go ceremony” and look only to the future from that point forward


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