The Grand Adventure of Life

Hello all,

I hope this message finds you very well, and enjoying the first lovely days of autumn. So much has happened since the last time we spoke that I thought I’d better catch you up, before we move on with the new blog.

We’d planned to have a big, splashy launch for the new home of LiveCharmed, but just as plans were being finalized, we found out that my wonderful husband was seriously ill. This was mid-June, and all I can say is that our family’s world was both turned upside down, and made incredibly poignant and lovely, all at the same time.

What can you say or do, when the one you love without measure is diagnosed with a terminal illness? You can cry (we did), you can worry about the future (we most certainly did!), or you can decide to fight the good fight and to live each day to its fullest, with no regrets, which is what he teaches me to do on a daily basis. You can learn to let unimportant comments and details slide, and you can learn to treat each day, whether good or bad, as an adventure. You can learn to rely on the love and support of everyone around you, you can learn to love without expectation, and, it isn’t easy, but you can also learn to make memories, rather than making plans.

This most remarkable man has taught me how to do all of these things, and more. In the midst of fighting the biggest battle of his life, he has taught me more about compassion for others than I could have ever imagined. He’s taught me that life, and love, go on, although perhaps in a different form. He’s taught me that courage and bravery don’t always look pretty. Sometimes they are tough and gritty, and come with heartbreaking and burning tears. He’s taught me that winning doesn’t always mean a full recovery, that sometimes it means fighting with dignity, no matter what the outcome may be. And he’s taught me that life is still the grand adventure that he and I have always believed it to be.

There was difficult surgery, radiation, life altering medications and there were unanswered questions. Still today, there are highs and lows, ups and downs and there are complications. Lots and lots of complications. But there are also wonderful visits from family and friends, from near and far. There were mended fences, and there were deepened friendships. There was a new baby born into our family, there was a four month tour of the world embarked on by one of our children, there are new masters degrees underway by two others, and there is a family holiday being planned for all of the 6 children and 3 grandchildren, which has been my husband’s and my dream for a very long time. We have found many, many reasons to celebrate life, and how fortunate we both feel we are. We’ve also now reached a place with his health that we hope can last for a very long while, but we no longer have any expectation. We’ve finally realized that all we have is what we’ve always ever had, and that is just today, and that is fine.

So what does that mean for us, and for the future of LiveCharmed? We’ve both taken time away from everything to tend to his health, but he’s always encouraged me to go back to writing, and to return to what this blog is about, which is making the most out of each and every day. He’s also encouraged me to live as if he’s going to live. So, as he has gone back to work to try to live as normally as possible, I too am returning to a more normal routine. At times it feels a bit of a struggle, but out of great respect and admiration for him, I’m following his example of how to live for today, and let tomorrow take care of itself, and that is exactly what LiveCharmed was always meant to be about anyway.

With love and best wishes,

DeeAnne

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DeeAnne Chomiak

25 Comments

  1. If there was a “like” button I would triple “like” this blog! You inspire me…you both inspire me. You are blessed to have the ability to express yourself in such an eloquent and beautiful way. Thank you for sharing your journey with all of us. Much love to you and your precious Eugene. ?XO Steph

    • Thank you Steph. I’ve been so fortunate to have you as a dear, lifelong friend and I so appreciate the kind and thoughtful words you’ve shared over the past months. We both do.
      Love to you and your Rob,
      D xxxx

  2. Deanne, I’ve followed your blog for a while and have gleaned much from you on how to live life to its fullest. I don’t have any words of wisdom to offer in this situation but felt that remaining silent was just wrong, too. I do pray, however, and will be lifting your husband, you and your family up in prayer for strength and wisdom as you take it one day at a time. Much love to you all!!

    • Thank you so very much for the kind words, and we have so much gratitude for words of strength, and prayers such as these! They have been our rock during the most difficult days.

      Warmest regards,
      DeeAnne

  3. Sending good thoughts and prayers to you and your husband, DeeAnne. I admire both of your courage, strength, and will, and thank you as always for writing here and sharing even though it may have been hard….you have all our prayers with you. Wishing you both much ease and comfort during this time. My Warmest Regards, Sophia

    • Thank you so very much for the kind and warm words Sophia!

      My warmest regards,
      DeeAnne

  4. Hello my name is Leslie Joyner I am new to your blog and have been blessed by every insert. May God continue to show you grace and mercy it may not be perfect but it will always be enough.

    • Hello Leslie,
      It’s so nice to “meet” you. Thank you for your kind words, and your prayers of mercy and comfort, and you’re absolutely right. It is always enough.
      Warmest regards,
      DeeAnne

  5. DeeAnne, Thank you for inspiring me to focus on what’s important in life. I’ve learned a great deal from you. As a natural planner by heart, your powerful quote will stay with me forever “you can also learn to make memories, rather than making plans”… Your intellect and grasp of quality not quantity in your life, relationships, time and possessions are life-long lessons to live by. My sincere best wishes to you and your lovely family and to making more wonderful memories.
    God bless you, Toni

    • Dear Toni,
      Thank you so much for the kind and caring words. You’ve made my day to think that I’ve had some small role in inspiring you to focus on what’s important, and to enjoy your life more! I, too, am a natural (and obsessive!) planner, as is the dear friend who’s husband is also battling a similar illness, and who shared that quote with me, so I understand what a light bulb moment it can trigger.
      Thank you, too, for your wishes, and your blessings, and my best wishes, in return, for your health and great happiness!
      Warmest regards,
      DeeAnne

  6. You seem to be amazing woman. Your blog is very inspirational and deep.
    Wish you and your other half all the best.
    With love,
    Amra

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